Arriving late to a dinner party a while back,
my husband and I approached the dining room, where people were
already seated. A woman rose up from her chair, pointed a finger
at David and cried, "My God, you're the one who raped Edith
Bunker!"
I
glanced at him. He'd already been established as a cross-dresser,
and he'd confessed to Frank Sinatra, of all people, that he
was the ice-pick killer. My husband smiled calmly. "I didn't
rape her," he explained. "I tried, but she hit me
in the face with a hot cake from the oven."
My
husband is an actor, in case you haven't already guessed. And
of all the strange marriages I've witnessed in my life (competitors
in politics or business, for instance, or lovey-dovey Siamese-twin-like
unions), none come close to the existential challenge of life
with a thespian.
The
day of our wedding I knew I had not only married an actor, I
had also married an actor's life -- and thereby taken a role
in a "partnership" akin to that between an orbiting
astronaut and Mission Control. As I waved goodbye to my new
mate, hurrying off from the reception to his evening performance
as Salieri in "Amadeus," I realized I was waving goodbye
to the way I'd lived up till then - as a poet and teacher of
writing, a life that had provided me with a modicum of control
over my own fate.
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